How To Deal with a Broken Heart

A series of ways to deal with a broken heart based on the Bible

Part 1


At one point in life, we all have gone through a heartbreak or two. Either you've experienced that Heart piercing, soul-crushing, joy depriving heartbreak. Where for a quick moment _a more extended period for most, we find ourselves questioning everything, even our existence. Or you could be one of the lucky ones where you experience a more settled one. Having gone through either situation, you then understand how horrible it is at times. And if you are currently going through this, fear not. We have come to the rescue. If you do a quick web search on "how to deal with a broken heart," you will find countless articles. Some are circular, and others are faith-based, both of which will give you some decent advice if you're aware of what you need. From personal experience and what we've gathered from the web, we wanted to put together a shortlist of suggestions on dealing with loss.

Here are a couple of ways to deal with a broken heart

  • Start Over

A great example that is rooted in the word of God could be found in the book of Ruth, the first chapter. Naomi (Pleasant) had lost both her sons and her husband, leaving her with a broken heart. Upon much reflection, she realized to deal with her loss correctly; she had to make a change. Her way of dealing with it was to leave Moab and head back to something familiar, comforting, in order to start anew, if you may. But overall, she wanted a change of scenery. Naomi had reached a certain point in life where she understood her loss and decided not to dwell in it. She instead picked up whatever she had left, which was herself, and went on to start anew. And this is what we should gather from this. Unlike Naomi, we probably do not have the ability to pack up everything and move physically. But we could start by changing our mindset and accepting reality for what it is. From there, we can gather the strength to shift our reality. And that could be achieved through prayer, spending time with God and taking the initiative for change. You could hit back the gym that you haven't been to in forever. Pick up a new hobby. Start rereading your bible, spend more time with God in prayer and fellowship. Start writing again (hint hint). Start doing anything that is within the will of God that brings you joy. And honestly there are so many ways this new chapter of your life, if you may call it, could go.

  • Trust God

Throughout the old testament alone, the word "trust" has been recorded over a hundred times, not counting the variation of the word such as "trusting." More often than not, when we go through heartbreaks, it is due to our own disobedience. Of course, the bible speaks of Job, who was upright before the Lord, yet he went through a great deal of loss. And we also have real-life situations where it is to no fault of ours when we succumb to a broken heart, such as the passing of a loved one, and at times even persecution. When we find ourselves in situations that cause heartaches, confusion, or brokenness, we ought to trust in God. From personal experience, I have gathered how that is such an easier said than done type of situation. But despite how truthful that is, the whole basis of our faith is trusting in God (Hebrew 11:1). And that is trusting in Him for every aspect of our lives, no matter how mundane or of great importance they are. So, it should not be such an incredible impossibility to trust Our Heavenly Father through our pains. To apply this biblical concept into a day-to-day life application that would make sense is simple. We start by willingly deciding to trust that he has a better plan for us. Trusting that even before we were formed in our mother's womb, He knew us, loved us, and had already established us as what he had in mind. We also have to choose to believe that he knows better. For example, we often hear about situations where partners kill each other. When I go through certain losses in a relationship, I often think of the worst-case scenarios, and I tell myself that God was protecting me from something similar.

Pertaining to the passing of a loved one, we have to understand that God is always near us. And even more so when we are going through pain, He is always ready to comfort and extend us more grace to get us through the period. The bible speaks of how the pain only lasts for a moment, and through that "moment," God will sustain us.

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. The righteous person faces many troubles, but the LORD comes to the rescue each time. Psalm 34:18-19
For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime! Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning. Psalm 30:5

If we're suffering because of our faith, we must trust God that our pain will not be in vain. On the contrary, the bible even advises us to see it as great joy because our reward will, of course, be much more significant.

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. James 1:2-3

But no matter what our reason for a broken heart is, always trust our redeemer that HE can make something beautiful out of it.

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