Not a bashing session, but my thoughts.
I often wonder about life. I always wonder what the point and what our purpose on earth is? Even from an early age, I would always question human existence. But with this new year 2022, and having survived a pandemic and years of sudden change, I have found myself pondering even more. Not due to any specific reason, but as one gets older, there will always be that surge to know what is next? What could've been done differently? What must be planned for the future? As someone with years of mental health struggles, there are those constant thoughts in the back of my mind. Such as, what if I don't become all that I was meant to be? What if I fail in life? Or even worse, What if I fail in the sight of the Lord?
But then again, there is news that one stumbled upon that makes you question everything else in a much more intense way. Earlier today, it was announced that the former Miss USA of 2019 committed suicide. And in all honesty, that touched me deeply. Not because I knew her personally, but because it is so sad that one could accomplish so much and still find little satisfaction. Not to be insensitive or shady at all, but that realization truly did break my heart this morning. And it begs this question: How can an accomplished lawyer, a Miss USA winner, a beauty queen on the outside and assuming on the inside as well, and a well-established person resort to suicide? Which made me question what is it that truly matters in this life? What hope is there for a person struggling to make it with the hope that things will get better in "making it"? The battle we face daily is so hardcore that we are looking forward to better days. But if we see examples of well-established people still losing the war in what we assumed to be the "better days," we can't help but wonder, is there a proven way to help a person stay anchored and not lose the war? If so, what is it?
King Solomon is one of my favorite characters in the Bible, following Christ, Paul, and David (just naming the men). And he did not hesitate to share his wisdom and give us a reality check that nothing from this world will truly satisfy us. Or at least they will be temporary. In the book of Ecclesiastes, he made sure to detail the different seasons of life and how one can seek satisfaction everywhere else and still fail. King Solomon tested pleasure; he tried to find happiness through wealth, not denying himself no good things, he had all the wisdom in the world, yet he found it all to be meaningless. So what really matters in life? Taking it from the man who had it all and tried it all, the only important thing in life is seeking the creator and knowing when and how to enjoy the gifts from him. As Christians, we have to learn to be content to combat life's dissatisfaction, either while having little or a lot. For it is through God that a person can find a more profound satisfaction in life. And that can only be received as a gift.
Dear friends, I do not know your struggles, challenges, or disappointments, but I know that our God lives. A prevalent saying goes, "the grass is always greener on the other side," which we tend to believe as a proven fact when it is not. No, the grass is not always greener on the other side. It is not ever so. It is simply a mirage that we perceive by focusing more on what we don't have instead of what we do. We all have our shortcomings and our falls. We all fail in private, and we all struggle one way or another. And with the more possession, the more knowledge or more of anything that we have, the more challenging and dissatisfied we can potentially be. We need to realize that God is the answer. And we need to pray that He helps us and opens our eyes so that we can appreciate the many gifts that we already have and are not enjoying. As King Solomon mentioned in Ecclesiastes 6, it is great wickedness not to enjoy all that is given to us in life by choosing to focus on what you lack. To those hoping to make it in order to be happy finally; to finally overcome depression, suicidal thoughts, and much more... Pray. Pray for contentment and guidance. Pray to have the ability to appreciate where you are currently at and remain strong for what is to come. And always remember to not look forward to the future so much that the present and all of its heavenly gifts, no matter how small, get ignored. And our faithful Father will always provide. At the same time, remember that this world is not for resting for us believers. Our rest will be in heaven with our Father.
P.S This is a simple thought. As mentioned earlier, I do not know the former miss USA in person, nor do I know of her faith or lack thereof. This article is not meant to bash or disrespect her or her family. I wish her family strength and that the Lord provides for them in such a difficult time.
And friends remember that,
Only God can satisfy and fill that emptiness in your heart.
Satisfaction will not come through wealth, money, or even things or other people. Joy, my friend, true contentment and happiness, come only through a relationship with the Lord. Take note of what Scripture tells us:
1.) “And the Lord will continually guide you, and satisfy your soul in scorched and dry places, and give strength to your bones, and you will be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water whose waters do not fail.” -Isaiah 58:11
2.) “Take great joy in the Eternal! His gifts are coming, and they are all your heart desires!” -Psalm 37:4
3.) “With every sun’s rising, surprise us with Your love, satisfy us with Your kindness. Then we will sing with joy and celebrate every day we are alive.” -Psalm 90:14
This is what I have observed to be good: that it is appropriate for a person to eat, to drink, and to find satisfaction in their toilsome labor under the sun during the few days of life God has given them—for this is their lot.
19 Moreover, when God gives someone wealth and possessions, and the ability to enjoy them, to accept their lot, and be happy in their toil—this is a gift of God.
20 They seldom reflect on the days of their life, because God keeps them occupied with gladness of heart.
I have seen another evil under the sun, and it weighs heavily on mankind:
2 God gives some people wealth, possessions, and honor, so that they lack nothing their hearts desire, but God does not grant them the ability to enjoy them, and strangers enjoy them instead. This is meaningless, a grievous evil.
3 A man may have a hundred children and live many years; yet no matter how long he lives, if he cannot enjoy his prosperity and does not receive proper burial, I say that a stillborn child is better off than he.
4 It comes without meaning, it departs in darkness, and in darkness, its name is shrouded.
5 Though it never saw the sun or knew anything, it has more rest than does that man—
6 even if he lives a thousand years twice over but fails to enjoy his prosperity. Do not all go to the same place?
Everyone’s toil is for their mouth,
yet their appetite is never satisfied.
8 What advantage have the wise over fools?
What do the poor gain
by knowing how to conduct themselves before others?
9 Better what the eye sees
than the roving of the appetite.
This too is meaningless,
a chasing after the wind.
10 Whatever exists has already been named, and what humanity is has been known; no one can contend with someone who is stronger. 11 The more the words, the less the meaning, and how does that profit anyone?
12 For who knows what is good for a person in life, during the few and meaningless days they pass through like a shadow? Who can tell them what will happen under the sun after they are gone?
"Better is the sight of the eyes than the wandering of the appetite." In other words, be content with what we do have rather than wandering inwardly for what we do not.
Check out this Article that goes in more depth on Ecclesiastes.